Mormon mother-of-six prompts a furious debate by arguing that unplanned pregnancies are ALWAYS men's fault - because condoms are more readily available than the pill (16 Pics)
A Mormon mother has caused controversy by arguing that unplanned pregnancies are always the man's fault no matter what the circumstances.
Gabrielle Blair, from Oakland, California, took to Twitter to explain her views, saying that the onus is on men to take the lead with contraception as condoms are more readily available and have less side effects than the pill.
I've been listening to men grandstand about women's reproductive rights, and I'm convinced men actually have zero interest in stopping abortion.
Mrs Blair, who runs a popular blog called Design Mom, reasoned that men who refuse to wear condoms are putting their sexual pleasure before a woman's quality of life; as pregnancies are physically demanding and childbirth is dangerous.
Her comments divided opinion in the Twitter thread, with many Twitter users praising her arguments, while others said she was ignoring the fact that women choose to have unprotected sex.
Gabrielle Blair, from Oakland, California, (pictured) said that unplanned pregnancies are always men's fault because they choose not to use contraception. She explained that condoms are more readily available to men than the contraceptive pill is to women
Mrs Blair said thatmen who refuse to wear condoms are putting their sexual pleasure before a woman's quality of life: Pictured: The blogger with her husband Ben and their children Ralph, Maude, Olive, Oscar, Betty and Flora June
She wrote: 'If you want to stop abortion, you need to prevent unwanted pregnancies. And men are 100% responsible for unwanted pregnancies. No for real, they are.
'Perhaps you are thinking: IT TAKES TWO! And yes, it does take two for _intentional_ pregnancies.'
Mrs Blair pointed out that women are most likely to get pregnant on the days they are ovulating, which is only a couple of days a month, while men can get women pregnant everyday of their lives from puberty until death and so the responsibility should fall on them.
She argued that is easier for men to take care of contraception that women, as condoms are cheap and available to buy everywhere.
On the flip side, oral contraceptives are more difficult to come by as they need a prescription and cause side effects, such as irregular bleeding, weight gain and mood changes, she claimed.
Mrs Blair then pointed out that many men don't like to wear condoms because they claim it reduces their sexual pleasure, but this is putting pleasure before the safety of women.
She wrote: 'There are men willing to risk getting a woman pregnant — which means literally risking her life, her health, her social status, her relationships, and her career, so that they can experience a few minutes of slightly more pleasure? Is that for real? Yes. Yes it is.'
She pointed out that men have to have an orgasm in order to get a woman pregnant but women do not, so it is men who are fully responsible for unwanted pregnancy because they put their pleasure before protecting against pregnancy.
She added: 'Women enjoying sex does not equal unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Men enjoying sex and having irresponsible ejaculations is what causes unwanted pregnancies and abortion.'
Mrs Blair argued that the only way to lower abortions would having a male contraceptive similar to the pill, which still hasn't been released because it has too many side effects.
She then suggested castration or vasectomies, which she said men would never sign up for.
When asked about whether women should get the blame for not asking their partners to use condoms, Mrs Blair said there are 'power dynamics' that would make a lot of women unable to say no their partners.
She came to the conclusion that the only way to stop unwanted pregnancies was abortion, unless men are punished for not using contraception.
Mrs Blair's comments caused a huge debate, with many saying it is wrong for women to be blameless for unplanned pregnancy.
One tweeted: 'One problem with your argument: you state men are responsible but ultimately it is the woman who spreads her legs. She can demand he wear a condom, or close her legs. She can use an alternative to the Pill such as Depot Provera and IUD.'
Another wrote: 'As soon as a woman gives consent to sex without a condom, they too are responsible for whatever happens next. It’s like swimming with sharks. If you do it, be prepared for the chance of you getting killed.'
However, many Twitter users praised her arguments, with some saying she was right to take the blame often placed on women for unplanned pregnancy and place it on men.
One tweeted: 'This is the most comprehensive, reasonable, well-researched, and LOGICAL assembly of ideas written on this subject, like, forever. I'm reposting EVERYWHERE. '
Another posted: 'Amazing perspective. You are 100% correct. Women are forced to operate in a rigged system. Could not imagine. This should be mandatory reading for all. As a father of two daughters, I hope that they can have better options.'
Mormon mother-of-six prompts a furious debate by arguing that unplanned pregnancies are ALWAYS men's fault - because condoms are more readily available than the pill (16 Pics)
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