Father is accused of 'sexualizing' his 15-year-old daughter after he insisted she 'cover up' in dance class, claiming a sports bra and spandex shorts are 'inappropriate' for her to wear
A father has been accused of 'sexualizing' his 15-year-old daughter after insisting she 'cover up' her dance outfits with one of his T-shirts.
The man's ex-wife revealed on Reddit's 'Am I The A**hole' forum that she is thinking of taking him to court because he has threatened to pull their daughter out of dance classes over the sports bras and spandex shorts she's required to wear.
'There are different dress codes for different styles of dance, but she often wears a sports bra, spandex shorts, and either tights or no tights. This is what all the girls on the team wear,' the anonymous mother explained.
Outrage: Reddit users are accusing a dad of 'sexualizing' his 15-year-old daughter after he threatened to pull her out of dance class if she didn't 'cover up' her sports bra (stock image)
She noted that their daughter is a 'very talented dancer' and has already 'won a decent amount of scholarship money' to go towards the Bachelor of Fine Arts degree she wants to pursue after graduating from high school.
'My daughter let me know that her father would insist that she wear one of his T-shirts over her dance outfit because her current outfit is inappropriate,' she shared.
'I confronted him because the teachers are clear that they need to be able to see her leg/abdominal muscles while she’s dancing to make sure she’s using the muscles properly.'
Her ex insisted the clothes are 'inappropriate for kids' and threatened to pull their daughter out of dance on the days she is with him 'if she doesn't cover up during practice.'
'What a creep': A majority of commenters agreed with the man's ex-wife, who revealed she is considering taking him to court to protect their daughter
'My daughter is devastated by this and is worried that she will be kicked off her advanced group if she isn’t dressed the way the instructors want,' she explained.
'I am on my daughter's side and I told my ex that he’s being creepy and weird and this is fine. All the kids wear the same outfits and it’s not inappropriate at all, so there’s no reason to act like it is.'
The mom said her ex has 'doubled down' and now her daughter no longer wants to his house if he won't let her attend her dance classes.
'I told my ex I would take it to court to make sure my daughter can stay in dance. He called me a crazy dance mom,' she added, asking if she was in the wrong.
A majority of commenters agreed with her, with a number of people saying her ex is 'sexualizing' their teenage daughter.
Real intentions: Others felt the dad is simply trying to control his ex and daughter by telling her what she can and can't wear to dance class
'Wonder if he would feel the same way about it if it was his son wearing a fitted wrestling uniform,' one person asked. 'My guess, probably not. He's being weird and sexualizing his daughter. Plenty of sports have revealing uniforms, and if this is a problem for him, maybe somebody should remind him it's 2020 not 1920.'
'The amount of people who sexualize teenage girls under the guise of "protecting" them is alarming,' someone else agreed.
Another added: 'Girls should not be taught to be ashamed of their bodies, they should not be taught that standard sportswear for their sport is shameful.'
Others felt the dad is simply trying to control his ex and daughter by telling her what she can and can't wear to dance class.
'You're not a crazy dance mom for standing up for your daughter and trying to keep him from ruining something she loves. Call his bluff,' one Reddit user advised.
'It’s about control. And he’s putting her in a no-win situation,' someone else pointed out. 'He says "cover up or you can’t dance" knowing full well that covering up will get her kicked out.'
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